I'm sorry, Jim, I just can't imagine you have gone through everything you have to say "you take the boys, I'll come move up there". Tough love? You mean to see if tough love would make her think it was a better idea just to reconcile?
Live your new reality for a little while, because once you make that decision, that's pretty much it.
It's awful any of us have to be here making these decisions. But these decisions need to be thought through very thoroughly.
