Gently V! Most times what brings us to this point is waywardness which is little to do with poor thinking from instance black and white or magical thinking.
That is the waywards chioce instead of working on their M, they feel entitled to behave as they choose. There are of course those who want to walk without waywardness. Those M might be saved.
Waywardness is bad behaviour, poor choices and absolute selfishness. Of course few of us are ideal partners, but frankly the responsibility for bad choices lies with the one who made them.
We can clean up our side of the street with a broom and shovel whilst the other side needs a truck and a crew with hazmat suits.
Doing the best we can for ourselves is our overarching requirement and yes I think developing ourselves helps us. An R is a communication between two in an M, taking time to have the skills to be a great partner is wonderful and part of our selves personally.
With a walkaway resolving ourselves may aid the R and certainly can heal an M. If the other is a wayward all of the effort in ourselves and our M likely has little effect on the wayward. We loose sight of the fact we are fine, just fine as we are and we are tinkering at the edges.
I put the responsibility on the waywards and their scuzzies and dipstick OP. Nasty unpleasant selfish behaviours and choices made by entitled jerks. No poor thinking of an LBS is ever an excuse for it. We may be chumps, and we M these waywards. This is the choice of the wayward fair and square.
In order to piece an M the wayward makes different choices and gets the big clean up of their side of the street.
My 2c worth.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
