Taking the first step...

[Cherry]

Hi coly, I thought I would pop over here to send some love. Congratulations on the promotion, that's excellent news- you should be so proud of yourself. Especially as you achieved it when you have so much going on in your personal life. I often ponder if my wh is having a mlc, there's a lot of his traits here, though he is so young, I didn't think it could be there.

I would imagine that loosing his job would have drastically have affected his self esteem, a lot of men like to be the provider of the family. And to be reduced to visiting the job centre and being treated like he is someone that doesn't want to work would really dent his confidence. I know my wh would tell me he would like to be able to earn enough that I didn't need to work, he would comment on my qualifications and my job and say I was way smarter than him. Of course he would go back on this and tell me he was glad I worked and contributed to the family.

I'm not sure how a parents r would affect wether or not he would return. At the end of the day, they are out in search of this thing that will make them happy. And they will probably continue to search until they realise that they need to do some work on themselves, if that even happens.

Andrews post was great on realising the importance of self. It's easy to fall in the trap of being your biggest critic, this is a trap I often fall in to. But you are important to many people, especially your D. You're showing her a fine example of a woman, you're keeping things together and working hard for yours and her future. When in this crisis mode, some lbs turn to a vice, or try to run from problems. You're staring it right in the eye and saying you will not be defeated, your interactions with h have still been with kindness.

Please go easy on yourself. This is a ridiculously hard thing to go through and you're doing great. Love yourself that bit more. You do deserve it