Taking the first step...

[Coly23]

So here is a question I wonder if any of you have any thoughts on.

I considered my self codependent in my marriage. I see that now. Before we got married my husband spent a lot of time on his own and he comes from a family where his parents although still together lead pretty separate lives like for example they never go on holiday with each other etc. It works for them and that is my H's example of married life whereas his brother has been with the same person since he was 15 and they live pretty codependently and are happy.

My H pretty much looks up to his parents so my question is: is it more likely for a WAS with codependency traits to return to the marriage (especially if they have not worked on themselves) than one who prefers his independence or is it really all about love! Does that make sense??