Wow CT1118, just caught up on your thread. Your words are inspirational and so are your actions. Your little boy must be very proud of his Dad!

I am also a spring/summer DB-ear and although my GAL activities are yet to get off the ground I found that posters like you, SH, Gump, Cherry, Phoebe Altair (everyone on here in fact!) and most recently the MLC folk have helped me to get through each day with such encouragement and positiveness even though you are all battling with your own pain and confusion.

Here I see the unconditional kindness of people who know where you have been and what you are feeling. We bare our souls in desperation looking for answers but what we rightly get is someone not giving us the answer we are looking for but who talk us down from that ledge of desperation to try and find the answer ourselves.

I have learned a lot over the past few months and it has been a lesson in humility and patience. I am not detached however if detachment is giving my H space to live his life and for me to find some peace in myself then I think I am getting there...


Me - 47
H - 45
D-16
M - 6 years
Separated - May 16

Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')