Hey Cheesy, looks like you've been through the emotional ringer these past few days.
It's wrong of W to use D as a stick to beat you with especially when it is so obvious that she is projecting her own thoughts and fears through D. However there is a glimmer of D being your champion here as she mentioned that you have changed for the better.
I agree with NYGal try and work on being consistent especially as you recognise you weren't so much in the past especially with D. Maybe it's time to ditch the textbook validations and answers for bit because this might be 'some of what doesn't work'....
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')