How Do We Know If Its MLC or If They Are Really Sa

[Coly23]

FightOn, 5 months down the line and I still can't get my head around the fact that I can do nothing to fix this sitch.

For the first few months I really couldn't understand that this once rational man started making such irrational decisions that were affecting our family without even a second glance!! I realise now after being on this forum since July that he is going through MLC and he believes what he is doing is right for him. When we had the first of many R talks, pre DB, he actually admitted that he knew he was being selfish but that was just the way it was. Like admitting it absolved him of any guilt!

I think this board has really helped me understand my H a little bit better and in turn I feel a little calmer already and I know I need to stop trying to fix things as well!! I'm working in it... !