She does sound like she's in MLC because of some of the things she's done. However, you are the only one that can determine if she is in MLC because you know her and what she's been like in the past. Does she appear to be confused and emotional a large majority of the time? Does she appear to be depressed? If you answer those questions w/a yes, then she is most likely in crisis and not just a walk away.
When I said opening up doors, I meant asking people for their opinions on her, what she's doing and your situation. When you ask others their opinions, you are "inviting" them to express their opinions and those opinions may not be what you want to hear and/or open up discussions about the situation. People who aren't familiar w/how MLC affects others do not understand the process. It is an emotional and for some a spiritual journey. Some will say that you need to let her go, move on and start dating...what they are trying to do is push your healing process along because they don't want to see you said and hurt...but until they walk a mile in your shoes, they will not understand what her journey is all about and why she's on it.
They are very emotional during the crisis and the anger can flare up at any time. They are angry at the world, at themselves and at you and the relationship. They have stuffed their emotions for so long that they have to spew like a volcano sometimes and then it dies down. Sometimes they are just angry about something and they sound off "at" us about it and we may not even be the target for the anger.
Here's something you may want to try. The next time she's spewing or the anger is present, change the subject, i.e., about the children and what they are doing or the weather. You may find that it throws her off her angry spew and she may very well settle down. I did this quite often w/my xh, i.e., one minute he was civil, the next an angry man and when I changed the subject, he reverted back to being civil.
