Focus on Me and my Boys 8

[J5K]

Painter,

I understand what you are saying. That just means more money wasted on daycare and either rent or getting a house in Michigan. I just want to move on with my life and provide as much as I can financially. As far as STBX is concerned, I am not sure I want her back. She offered 50-50 custody in mediation and I turned it down.

It is not about the money between her and I anymore and me not wanting to pay child support to her. I just want some normalcy again. I cannot perform to the best of my ability at work as a single dad. If STBX still resents me no matter who has the boys, that is on her. I just want to give my kids the best possible outcome between her and I at this point and this cannot be done living such a long distance apart.

One year of me making knee jerk reactions and being inconsistent in my choices is enough.

But don't you see that this would be yet another knee-jerk reaction?

A father should be more than a financial provider. And your success as a father is more important than achieving your highest potential at work.

As SH said, live the new reality for a while.

Rose,

I agree, I will be more than a financial provider, that is my choice on how much I interact with the boys no matter who has custody of them. I need to balance both. I have been living the new reality for a year now, granted not in the best emotional state but have managed to parent these boys as best as I can. I am not doing this for STBX I am doing it because I want to.