Maybs - Pt 4 - where to now?

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Cherry, I couldn't believe she didn't see how that was inappropriate for us to sign divorce papers at a toddlers birthday party in front of her entire family....

It must be part of the history re-write, I don't know how they forget all they were willing to go through and fight for to get here just to turn and walk away.

Okay, so party update. I asked SIL if I could get there early so I could spend some time with my nieces before everyone got there. So I was about an hour early, they both ran right up to me and hugged me and wanted me to pick them up and it was so sweet, they never act like that towards anyone!

BIL told me that a couple of weeks ago when W had her birthday dinner with them my oldest niece kept saying "Happy Birthday (my name)" not W's name.

So it was pretty much just family BIL, SIL, W, FIL and then SIL's sister, BIL, and parents. We have always all been pretty close, both families are smaller and so we always tend to celebrate things together. When W got there she said hi to everyone else and completely ignored me. She wouldn't even stay in the same room as me. I just let it go and spent time with the family, laughing and joking and eating and honestly I had a super good time.

There were a couple of times that W was having a conversation with like the entire room and I would say something and she would act like I didn't even exist so I just let her act like a child and did my own thing.

She left before I did and SIL and I were talking about doing some kind of dinner or girls day for me tomorrow because it's my birthday tomorrow and she asked if I had to work Monday and I told her I wasn't sure because Monday was our court date and I'm not sure if I'm supposed to go or not since they're going to be finalizing the D. And she had no idea like W I guess hasn't mentioned it to anyone. So then BIL, SIL and her parents were talking to me about it and asking about how stuff was split up and blah blah blah.

And SIL mother just like flew off the handle and was like "good she doesn't deserve anything she's the one that doesn't understand what marriage is and she's the one that cheated and didn't understand that marriage takes work and effort it's not all just good times."

I can see after the party why she feels that there's a wedge between her and her family and I can see why she would think it's me. But her family loves me and they try to talk to her and even in person she's very withdrawn. So it's hard for them to approach her or even hold a conversation with her. And I literally acted like my normal self and was having fun.

After the party I called my friend H and we talked for like an hour and a half about everything that happened with the text conversation yesterday and the blow up on Tuesday and the party and everything. And in true bff fashion she supports and understands why I still would wnat to try with W but also tells me like it is and said that with the way she's been acting the last week I deserve so much better. Which is true. I don't deserve the way she has been treating me especially this last week. I've tried to stay polite, validating, and calm and she just keeps throwing her little tantrums.