Huddy, I'm really pleased to hear that your nephew reached out to you and I hope your meeting on Sunday goes well. I'm so sorry to hear about what happened within your family. So do you not have any contact with any of your sisters then?

As for your W, please remember to release rather than hold on. I worry that you scrutinise her for little 'signs' and then you post here....who knows what they may mean? After we D'd, I had my engagement ring resized to wear on my right hand. Really, just because it's an expensive ring and I like to wear it - not because I'm keen to retain a link with XH. Point I'm making is that ruminating on stuff like that is a cheeseless tunnel which keeps us a little stuck and attached I think.

I still feel that you watch, wait, feel frustrated and in pain and I would love to see you release that and move forward with your own plans. lose any feeling of waiting (standing is different to waiting) and live your life 'as if.' I'm not advocating dating (or D'ing) at all and I will never do so for anyone who is M - but in every way apart from that - live as though she won't return..I don't believe that would harm your sitch and it may do you a lot of good.

As you say it is 18 months now. Don't feel frustrated that nothing is moving on. Don't look to someone else to move on and feel frustrated. Do what you need to move yourself forward.

Have a good weekend xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus