Sometimes that stuff is pulled out of us by people who have good intentions (Fixers) and think in some way they can help ... which was why this board was so vital for me during that time as only the people here could relate when I would say my W went monster and I luckily wore the spew jacket.
I was point blank asked by BIL1 if she was having an A, I looked him dead in the eye and told him, she is your sister, feel free to ask her any question you would like. He knew but was not me who said anything ..... the SIL spilled the beans after what I would call a Twin MLC Monster Meltdown of epic proportions.
My advice ... she is in crisis, not your circus not your monkey and you really don't want to be the one letting the cat out the bag, take the high road and be above that stuff, friends and family will think what they will, sift through the lies or believe them its really dependent on the individual, I rose above it ... and I am thankful I did, back in the heat of it I wanted the A exposed to all just to shame her, that was out of hurt and fear, I decided I wanted to be stronger than that and went all Clint Eastwood on it.
