That was an excellent posting and it is really spot on!
Coly, you are now on your own journey and time is on your side...use it wisely. Congratulations on the promotion! I know that you would love to ring your h up and tell him about it...and you might be able to share the good news down the road.
Have you had time to read up on male depression? Did you know that depression can be different for men and women? It's not about sitting around and not being able to get out of bed or off the couch, it's a really bad place to be in and the sadness and the feeling of being so lost and feeling unworthy of love, etc., does take its tool on them. They find nothing in life to be joyous about. However, they will try different things to make themselves feel better. Once the "feel good" feeling is gone, they start searching again. The internal pain is terrible. Just because we can't see the wounds doesn't mean that they aren't hurting.
As I mentioned earlier, time is on your side. Use it wisely...spend time w/your D and celebrate your promotion. Some day soon, you'll feel so much better and hopefully you will discover some new interests that will help you relieve the stress, anger and hurt.
As for your h being concerned w/your silence...he's not thinking about it. In fact, he most likely is relieved that he doesn't have to any contact w/family right now. He doesn't want to hear the hurt and pain in your voices. But, I can assure you, he will contact you when he's good and ready...they always do. It may not be tomorrow or next week, you will hear from him.
