Okay -- sorry for my post above. I need to remover to stay away from drinking when I am sad.
Today, I will focus on my blessings:
1. I have a great job (better than my H's) and my managers are very supportive of me and are allowing me to take breaks as I need. I have had the same job for 16 years -- where he has always bounced around.
2. I am still living in my home and my H does not want it. He now hates the area. We live outside a large city and he has moved into the city.
3. I have a loving D that just got straight A's on her progress report -- even though her life was turned upside down last month.
4. My H just gave me his bonus and almost all my credit card debt has been paid off. I also ordered new cards that no longer have him as an authorized user.
5. I have a very supportive network of friends and family. Although I am afraid they will get tired of me rehashing the same stuff over and over again.
6. I have found a wonderful IC who is amazing and a great support group that meets every Wednesday.
7. My household chores are now 1/2 what they used to be -- and I no longer worry that my H will decide to just go and blow $500 without telling me (my paycheck is now going into my own account).
8. I have lost almost 25lbs since he told me. About 20 more and I will be at the weight I was when we married, when I was 25.
I will think of more later! I hope each and everyone of your have a great day!
These are great things. Always count your blessings. Do it every day. Detach and do more GAL activities. You'll find that you're still a fun person and you're happy. What did you dream of doing when you were young? I know there are some things you wanted to do with your life that you put on hold or let go of because of marriage.
We all make sacrifices in marriage. Now you don't have to. You can do whatever you want. Salsa dancing? Hang gliding? Scuba diving? Running? Zumba class? Learn to play the cello? Whatever. Anything you want. It's your life and you answer to no one. Especially not him, he wanted off your team and you only plan your comings and goings with your team. Spend more time actively doing GAL and having fun, and less time crying and lamenting your marriage. Force yourself to refocus your thinking. Counting your blessings is a good thing to do. Keep it up.
