Sorry Job, I finally noticed your note that my thread was WAY over due, sorry!
I was trying to think what to call this, and remembered how I used to name my threads after whichever song fit my brokenhearted, angry, hopeful, resigned or grateful state of mind at the time. After considering just plain "Happy" (but was never sure what he meant by clapping along if you feel like a room without a roof LOL) and also "If you want to be happy" by Jimmy Soul (If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife) I decided to pick this ABBA song, "The winner takes it all."
I remember torturing myself moping around the house listening to ABBA and crying about my ex and his OW. But have come to realize that WE are the winners. We honored our vows, stood strong with dignity and did everything we could to save our marriages. We came out the other side much better men and women, stronger. We faced the crappy stuff about ourselves and are trying our best to do better and be better. Maybe not totally whole yet, but healing. And very very important for those of us with kids - we showed our children what it means to honor and fight for your marriage.
I don't know how I could have ever thought that any OP could be the winner. A relationship based on lies and cheating is not worth having. We are moving on, leaving them to their broken relationships based on smoke and mirrors.
So this is dedicated to all of us, but especially you, Grl On Fire AKA JksD. I know you are hurting honey, but you are and will always be the winner, standing strong and taking it all. TPT may have your ex, but she is actually the loser, standing small. Stand tall Jks.
I don't want to talk About the things we've gone through Though it's hurting me Now it's history I've played all my cards And that's what you've done too Nothing more to say No more ace to play
The winner takes it all The loser standing small Beside the victory That's her destiny
