Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #5]

[ForGump]

She doesn't want that guilt.

Yes, she always tries to frame it as both of us being culpable. When she says that I've tried to say -- or maybe I just thought of it in my head -- that yes, of course we are both responsible for how the marriage worked, but I wanted to work on it, rather than get a divorce, so the divorce itself is on you, as are any affairs.

I will likely do some type of last resort letter, not so much in the hopes that she'll spin around and change her mind, but to put it down clearly on paper that this is something she chose, not me, and that from the beginning I respected, value and wanted to save our marriage.