Lost, hopefully you can find a financial resolution that does not involve D for the interim. Sounds like your W is being very 'my way or the highway' though. It's tricky, for sure. In my case H and I agreed on how we'd split up assets, got separate banking accounts, and are moving forward financially separate, but no D. For some, this is risky, I'm in a community property state so that sort of defines what would happen-- but we both work so there'd most likely not be spousal support, etc. A lot of people on the board are in these semi-precarious financial stages; where the S could go on a wild credit card spree and the LBS is legally on the hook. In my case (and perhaps yours) this is unlikely. Sure, it's possible, but unlikely. And the last few months have proven things are going along smoothly financially anyway, with each of us doing his/her own thing. Anyway, rushing to D to fix finances seems hasty. Hopefully there's a way you can find that you aren't bankrolling an A but she's doing her thing and you have the time to work on yourself!!
me 42 H 32 T 7yr M 6yr BD 5/2016 ILYBNILWY Separated 7/2016
