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I will do what I want to do, as I have learned from Cadet, but I was wondering what the good folks here in long long situations advise about my upcoming wedding anniversary.

My W has never vebalised to me, wanting to leave although has admitted being disconnected. Apart from kisses good morning, goodbye, hello and goodnight there are no physical signs of affection from her. She does not flinch if I make contact/touch. Communication is not as it should be or at least not all the time.For a couple in crisis it is not bad. OK that is a brief summary for those who havenot had a chance to read up on my situation.

Last year (not specifically planned),i flew home for a week alone on our anniversary. I left a card and pressie for her to find. She texted first happy anniversary.

This year again not planned we are all traveling home on our anniversary!As it is our 10th, it is or should have been somewhat special. Before the depth of this crisis was understood by me I had intended asking her to renew our vows either for our 20th year together (last year) or our 10th married.Obviously I have put such thoughts on hold.

Here is my question. What do you think of me asking her if she wants to do something to mark the occasion? I can do so with no expectations or hopes and can handle a bomb drop if she decides to drop one.

I got to go. I look forward to the wise words from ye all.

Best wishes