There's a whole other thing that I somehow forgot. She dated women exclusively from the age of 20-25
Maybe to point out the obvious ... she sounds like she might not feel a really strong direction in her own life ... and tried to force/repress it with you, and is now kind of going wild. She needs time and space to figure it out.
Somewhat similar story in my life. W repressed a lot over the years, I think...
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final