Hola, ladies. I've been on a break but I'm back. Lucky you!
Maybell, Sunny addressed the hurt part. And yes, it's true. I think the tears come when I'm not feeling well or having a vulnerable moment. It's like bringing up someone who has died in a moment that takes you off guard? I can't help it. It's not like it didn't happen and wasn't important to me?
Anyway, my Aries friend, much of your journey does resonate with me. I think it's time to go deep to address the stuff that still has you so raw. I have a recommendation that I might have mentioned before. Well, the material has been updated and given a new name. It's called Transforming Anger into Forgiveness. Google it. The audio set is $35 and worth every penny. In fact, you can't get IC that gives you so much.
You don't have to be Catholic to get something out of it. He's not a preachy person. He approaches the material from the perspective of being a human being raised in a dysfunctional, alcoholic family. The entire discussion ROCKED.MY.WORLD. I cried buckets while listening to it because it resonated with me. I really, really think it would benefit you to listen.
For the record, when my D22 was about 16 and ready for the message, we listened to it in the car on our way to and from volleyball matches. Yes, I knew where she was stuck, but she had to figure it out on her own, and this was a great way for her to honestly feel comfortable with the message. After that, I sent it to my sister (who is not a practicing Catholic), and she was equally moved and affected by the message. LOL, she's another Aries and super stubborn.
BTW, the forgiveness part will probably surprise you - because I'm not recommending this to you so that you can forgive your XH. You have some unique hurts that have been a burden, and I honestly believe you will be relieved to let some of those emotions out.
The entire CD set is about 2-3 hours, but you don't have to do it in one sitting. Hell, I didn't. I could only handle one at a time and then I needed to process how I felt. I promise you and anyone else who is interested that this is the best investment I've ever made. I'm feeling a little resentment toward a certain someone right now, and it would probably help me to dig them out and have another listen to the message.
You're worth the effort, Maybell.
Hugs, Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
