I had to sit back and think about the "drops" as I posted about three "drops" years ago. I found it interesting that someone would ask about them after all of this time.
Your h will determine whether he wants to reconcile or not and it doesn't matter which "drop" he is. If he wakes up and truly wants to do the hard, necessary work, then he'll attempt to reconcile w/you. Ultimately, you will be the one to decide if you want to reconcile or not. Why? Because there is always a chance that you've moved on and don't want to be involved w/him again, i.e., too much damage or he's changed so much from his crisis that you don't like the person he is at that time, you may very well have changed too and may be far happier living your life and not having him in it. Time will tell....but that's a long way down the road and you truly need to only focus on today and how you spend your time living your life.
Keep the focus on you! Leave your h in the man upstairs hands.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
