Life is kicking my butt

[MrBond]

"I'm the business co owner, and she takes money out all the time without notifying me. To pay for all sorts of things including her lawyers."

And did you talk to her about that? Did you discuss it with your L?

"Now that I do the same it is a problem."

You've complained about her doing it before and now that she's complaining, you're making a big deal about it? Again, you put alot of burden of irritation on your W.

"What she always forgets is that there would not be a business if I did not work so she could be a stay at home mom and work on it."

Before all this started, you were perfectly fine with it. To criticize your decision to let her be a stay at home mom now shows you don't see the job of mom as being as important as what you were doing.

You spend alot of time complaining about your W and making yourself angry. You, of course, have a right to do so, but I will tell you that all it will do is fester and grow and continue to consume you. You have a choice to stop that. But you're choosing not to. You seem to enjoy contradicting what others are saying will help you to get out of your anger, and yet you keep asking for suggestions to help you feel better. I mean do you really like the pity parade you're throwing for yourself? If not, then really do something about it.