Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 5)

[JRuss]

FG -- I asked for recommendations from my IC and got a few names. I then looked at all of their websites and reviewed qualifications and training, what they say they try to do, where their bias is (marriage or neutral). I've read where Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) has the best results, so I eliminated anyone that didn't utilize that in their practice. That got me down to two names, and I gave both of them to my W and let her pick, thinking that would minimize the risk she'd say I crammed a bad pro-me choice down on her. She apparently ran it by her IC and picked the one we're going with.

I will bail in short order if I get the sense W is just going through the motions. I also think the therapist we've chosen will also pull the plug if she sees the same, since she has a pro-marriage bias.

I do not work with trees but sure do love them. Watching them move in the breeze is a favorite meditative practice of mine.