I was thinking of my wife referring to me now as ‘m***f***er’. Before I used to think - how could she do this? In order for me to divorce someone I would have to really despise that person. And no matter what happened I could never despise the mother of my children. Well, looks like her feelings for me are extremely negative and contemptuous. It’s safe to say that she hates me, blames me for ruining her life and probably considers me to be emotionally abusive. I think back to the sweetness of our early years - meeting for the first time, how wonderful that was, the birth of our kids, supporting each others through parents death and major life changes. How did that pure and innocent love sour and turn into this hatred? I don’t understand it. Other than, she is pumping herself up, and likely her friends are pumping herself up - and she needs this hatred in order to get through this divorce and do what she feels is right for herself.
She isn't doing this TO you at all...
She is doing this for herself..
She isn't doing this because she hates you, or doesn't love you...
She is doing this because she has zero clue, who the heck she is..
And she is struggling to find that out...
Yet, YOU are choosing to perpetuate the anger, by reflecting it back onto her...
She is running on pure emotion right now....
That is the norm for a WAS....
And that is also why you have to choose YOU....
Secondly...
Stockdale isn't about you viewing this as a POW...
It is the message, that your thoughts become your actions...
