Cat04, do you really think that if they want out they will just leave, even if they claim finances keep them in the house? The reason I ask is my MLC'er is still at home. I know I shouldn't focus too much on what he does and doesn't do, but some days are really hard and I need to look for something positive. Anything. Even it's just him being in the house. I want so badly for this to mean something positive. Ugh. I feel like such a loser.
Wow, you brought a blast from the past back...
Do I think they will just leave if the really want out?
I do think they will. And I think that sometimes they will stay even if they don't want to...And I think sometimes they will leave even if they don't want to...
I know, not quite the answer you were looking for
MLC, is a crap shoot. You are dealing with someone who has no idea what he wants, because it will change as the wind blows.
It is hard living with a MLCer. Harder than anything you will do.
It requires you really learning how to detatch, how to not get sucked in to the drama, how to not buy into the things you will hear, how not to have expectations about anything, how to just live your life and let him live his...
If you can't do those things, you will lose yourself in the MLC, just like he has.
Please don't use your child as an excuse to not take care of yourself.
You can GAL with your S and without him. Do things that make memories for the two of you. Join a mommy and me group.
Your goal, is to outlast the MLC. And to become the best you that you can be.
Post here, vent, ask questions...
Only you can determine if it is MLC or not. Although if it walks like a duck...
This is the best worst place you can be....
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
