Bomb dropped

[Cherry]

That's good that you're going back to your therapist, that will help you and also give you a safe place to vent and let emotions out. It unfortunately often takes the bd for us to realise the changes we would like to make. None of us are perfect and it gives you some goals for what you can work towards. It may take a while for your w to accept these changes and trust that this isn't a phase, so they need to be genuine.

I'm sorry you're having a hard day, the early days are often a case of getting by hour by hour rather than day by day. Don't beat yourself up for feeling like this though, it's totally normal, this is your m, your family. You would be seriously in denial if you were feeling emotionless right now.

Set yourself some realistic goals. And do what you can to make you feel better. Some men throw themselves into the gym, some women give themselves a makeover. Just be kind to yourself and concentrate on your for a while. Your wife is all over the place right now. Stay steady and be that lighthouse. Give her glimpses of this calm amazing man.

What where you like when you met your wife? Was there some hobbies you were interested in? What qualities did she like? Look inside yourself and keep your focus on you for a little while. It really does help.

There's a lot of supportive friendly people here, we're like a little family here. Have a read of other people's posts and reach out to them, and they will reach out to you and help you. Being here really will help you to become a great person and hopefully draw your wife towards you. I'm rooting for you.