FightOn, I don't have any words of advice for you as I am new here as well. Been dealing with this for the last month - blindsided to say the least. After I found out about H's EA I was devastated and kicked him out. I am not sure what is worse now, having him living somewhere else or having him here I too am a fixer and the hardest thing about this is we can't fix it. We can't do anything but sit and wait and have patience. I think that is why everyone says work on yourself. We can fix ourselves and in the end we will be better people for it. I have the hardest time with not talking to him. I feel like if I am not around that he will forget about me. That is nonsense of course. He just has to decide what he wants. My daughter told me that he has our wedding picture on his dresser in his rented room... that must mean something. If he is looking at that every day then he won't forget about me. Sorry for rambling. I look forward to reading your posts
I too am a fixer and the hardest thing about this is we can't fix it. We can't do anything but sit and wait and have patience. I think that is why everyone says work on yourself. We can fix ourselves and in the end we will be better people for it. I have the hardest time with not talking to him. I feel like if I am not around that he will forget about me. That is nonsense of course. He just has to decide what he wants. My daughter told me that he has our wedding picture on his dresser in his rented room... that must mean something. If he is looking at that every day then he won't forget about me. Sorry for rambling. I look forward to reading your posts 
