Maybs - Pt 4 - where to now?

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Yes Cherry, that's what I felt was happening. I felt like she was genuinely upset but also I think she was trying to bait me into an argument. It made her mad I didn't fight with her but it would have made her just as mad AND given her justification if I had gotten upset.

My W has also said things about me to her family to try to sway them to her "side" I suppose but they didn't believe any of them. She's mistaking their lack of acceptance for her behaviors as them not supporting her. I know they want her to be happy they just believe she's going about it the wrong way.

W texted me this evening to send me a copy of the divorce judgement before her L files it and I told her I would look at it when I have the time. She got snotty with me and was like "well I need to know soon since it has to be ready for court Monday" I wanted to be like "it doesn't HAVE to be ready by Monday you just WANT it to be ready by Monday." but I just said that I would do my best because I have a busy few days. Which is true, I am busy.

I had IC this evening and we were talking about the actual D and finalization (which may be happening Monday) and I feel like unfortunately for me this divorce needs to finalize for my W to ever stop looking at me as her "problem". If she is ever going to realize that the issue is with her and not something I'm causing we need to be divorced, she thinks D-day is like this magic event where her life will finally be perfect and she will have no problems...She's in for a rude awakening in my opinion.