Actually they have a difficult time sleeping at night. Why? Because their brains don't shut off and that's when they don't have anything to distract them from thinking about what they've done and the guilt eats at them. All they do is think and play out things over and over again.
I agree with Job -- I witnessed this first hand for nearly a year before I moved out of the house. In fact, before BD when we were still an "us", she told me that she couldn't sleep or process anything because she had too much going on in her head and she couldn't turn her brain "off."
My MLCer hardly ever slept that year before I moved out and now, nearly a year and a half since I moved out, I still see evidence of odd sleeping patterns. Before my exW unfriended me from FB I was able to see that she was online or posting to FB at odd hours of the night and early morning, and I frequently get emails from her (about kids' issues) that are time-stamped between 12:00-3:00 am. I am sound asleep at those hours. She has a professional job with normal 9-5 M-F hours, so she should be asleep as well, but for some reason she isn't. And she is now married to the OW which makes being online checking social media and sending emails about the kids (to me) even more odd. All of this just indicates to me that she can't shut off her brain even though she got what she wanted -- Divorce and me out of the house so she could move OW in and marry her. Getting rid of me did not cure the stress and depression.
Me 48, Her 50 (Same-Sex Couple) 3 Children Together: 9.5 years before BD BD: Week of 10/27/14 ExW started EA w OW 9/2014 ExW married OW 12/2015
