You are a fixer and most of us here are fixers. It's difficult not to try to fix his problem for him...but you are right, it is completely out of your hands at this time.
Generally 18-24 months before the BD, something happens to trigger the dissatisfaction in their lives and that's when they begin to become moody, slowly begin changing, and the changes aren't sending up red flags, but a few years down the road you can look back and see what was just a blip on the radar was actually a change. Dissatisfaction sets in and then one day, the BD happens and it does appear to happen quickly to us, but really it had been going on for quite some time.
Try to keep the focus on you and your little one. Conway's book is an excellent one and we have recommended that book, along w/his deceased wife's, Sally's, book as well. I'll post the latest reading list and you might find something of interest in the recommendations as well. However, I urge you to visit the threads and read all you can on MLC and depression. I think you will find a wealth of info on all of the forums.
Here's a link to a thread called Recommended Reading Material. Please feel free to add to the listing.
You love the man, you just don't love his behavior at the moment. Dig deeper for patience and know that it is not about you at all, but all about him and his emotional and spiritual journey to find himself.
