Some of them initiate contact to see where we are at, i.e., as to whether we are where they left us pre-crisis. They use any old excuse to contact us, i.e., they miss the dog, they left something behind and need to get it, a bill has come in and he/she wants to give it to you because it's yours to pay, missing mail, need to pick up the mail, discuss a business (if you own it jointly), etc., the list goes on. In some cases, they come by the house to "sniff" out what you are doing and to see if any competition has been coming to the home. They usually check out the bedroom and bathroom, i.e., like marking their territory. Yes, they do and it can be very obvious how they walk around and check things out.
Sometimes they just want to appease their guilt and contact you just to see how you are doing...but really, it's all to appease their guilt.
We can't predict what they'll say or do when they make contact, but I have provided some examples because each and every person is unique and so is their crisis.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
