I don't know. For me it took awhile...after a few months, I guess I just assumed that we'd keep dating and get married. I'm definitely not the romantic type and I definitely just let things flow where they might. I loved her b/c she was so even keeled and positive in literally every situation. Nothing seemed to get her too high, or too low...although I've since learned the opposite was true, she just bottled it all up and staying "even" was her way of coping with adversity.
I "think" she loved me b/c of my propensity to "call it how it is", that I literally would "do anything for her"...and probably for my strong convictions in what I believed in.
What's so weird for me was that she's absolutely NOT intense on the surface at ALL. Turns out she was incredibly intense underneath the whole time, but just held it in. Now that I look back on this, her Dad's nervous breakdown didn't seem to upset or affect her at all...if anything she seemed kind of annoyed by the whole process. Her grandmother died a couple of months ago too...and in the months leading up, it just seemed like both the xW and her mom wanted it to be over, rather than dealing w/ her sickness. Still weirds me out.
ME-37 W-34 T-8 M-4 ILYBNILWY BD: 8-31-2015 EA suspected - 11/1/15 PA confirmed - 1/22/16 W files for D - 2/4/16 D - 8/9/16