cskone -- what was the process of falling in love with her like? What did you like about her? How did she make you feel? And vice versa: what did she like about you? How did she feel about you?
Your ex sounds super intense. Sometimes mellow people can have something akin to PTSD from falling in love with someone incredibly more intense than they are.
Just a thought from an armchair psychologist.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final