Detached, getting along better, but in limbo....

[Cherry]

I think Andrew has hit the nail on the head there, I know you've gotten to a place with a bit more peace, but I don't think it's fair to you that she continues to take and use a lot of your money to fund her living, she's not feeling any consequences there. A temporary contract with an L would be a good idea. You absolutely need to protect yourself right now. I guess I'm lucky that we never got round to changing accounts around, the money for just the bills and mortgage was one we both set direct debits up to go from our accounts to cover these things. Last month he has cancelled his so I've been doing it alone. He hasn't paid a thing towards the household or for S, as soon as he moves though I will make sure he begins to pay child support.

Yup, don't get drawn in to her behaviours. They're so all over the place! One day they will be nice as anything to you, the next giving you the cold shoulder. Just don't let her moods dictate yours, this is her just showing she is in some kind of crisis. But that's not your problem right now.