Thank you. I do have Divorce Remedy and will get Divorce Busting. Yes, I started counseling on Monday. I have a terrible issue with reaction - so we are going to work on that Currently I am going dark and working on myself. It is clear that I have to stop communication with him so that he doesn't think that I am sitting around feeling sorry for myself and waiting for him to come back. He truly is having a terrible time. He is so confused and crying for help but he refuses to get the help that he needs. It is awful sitting here knowing that if he got the help it would also help our situation Thank you so much for the replies!! It sure is helpful to stay strong.
Currently I am going dark and working on myself. It is clear that I have to stop communication with him so that he doesn't think that I am sitting around feeling sorry for myself and waiting for him to come back. He truly is having a terrible time. He is so confused and crying for help but he refuses to get the help that he needs. It is awful sitting here knowing that if he got the help it would also help our situation 
Thank you so much for the replies!! It sure is helpful to stay strong.