Here we go again....

[matw]

So last night was really interesting. Like I said earlier W has been out of town for a week. I had some family in town and met them at a restaurant with my kids. W thinking I was at home with the kids tried to do a video call so she could see them and say hi. I ignored it and texted her that we are out to dinner but if she wanted to talk to them I would let her know when we were at home. I left it at that and enjoyed the dinner. When we got home I texted to let her know we were home and she could video chat with them if she would like. So she does the call and talks to the kids.

What is interesting is after about 5 minutes she asks the kids to give the phone to me and asks our S9 & S9 to take our D3 upstairs to get her ready for bed. Then she proceeds to ask me how the kids are doing. I tell them they are fine and everything is going great. She continues to make small talk - Asking how I was doing? How was the gym? How did your work go? What plans do you have for the weekend? General stuff that probably normal people talk about. We actually end up spending a half hours just talking. No relationship stuff, no marriage, no separation anything. I made sure to act confident the whole time, not asking her permission for anything I plan on doing, telling her my plans without fear she won't like them, etc... It was sort of nice. It was probably the longest talk without her getting angry or short in a few weeks. She was seemingly interested in my answers.

So I decided the conversation should end and I should be the one to end I tell her I am going to go get the kids ready for bed and that I would see her tomorrow when I pick her up from the airport. Not more than 20 minutes later I get a text message from her asking me if I get everybody to bed? Then asking if I am cuddling our D3. She hasn't texted me out of the blue like that in a long while.

I am sure this is some sort of cake eating and her wanting the family side of things. Not sure if I should be more abrupt in ending the conversations like this and not allow them to happen. We still have another month and a half until she moves out to the apartment so I would rather remain civil if possible. I also want to make sure I am starting the process of regrowing my back bone.

On the other hand I am extremely nervous about her coming home today. It has been easy to semi detach from her because I haven't seen her in a week but now that she will be back I am going to have to put a lot more effort into it. When I am around her I tend to do a lot of things I know I shouldn't be doing - making sure the house is spotless so she doesn't get angry, making her coffee, rubbing her hair while we are in bed watching tv, etc... Those are going to be the biggest things I want to work on while she is back and before she leaves.