WW Starting to talk again. Not sure if I want her.

[Surfer]

Thanks Jug. I totally agree.

I am troubled by something and would appreciate anyone's thoughts. Basically, W moved out taking circa 50% of a lot of money I put in an account for her (a tax efficient savings account in her name) only she can access this. She has he ability to spend it all. Then D and take what she can from the rest of our assets - say 50%. she has talked about buying a house to the kids, but needs to D to do that. She has instigated mediation and I have completed my forms to move forward with this - but she has not. I don't know why. But we are all kind of in limbo. I don't want to D my W as its her journey, butt I do think we need to move forward either reconcile (my W is so dead set against this, I just don't think it will happen - I am also getting to the stage where I don't want her back, for certain as she has been and probably still is). So what is the answer. Sit still as she fritters always £10's of thousands, get L to send a letter to say what is happening.....any views. I am sure when the money runs out I will become the bad man for not providing access to any more money etc. I am also providing her with roughly 50% of her take home money. Effectively I am paying for 2 houses and the. Also giving her monthly income on top........thoughts on this???

In terms of the rest of the sitch. Had a few meetings in town then a curry for lunch yesterday with ex colleagues. Also had a few pints and a l other curry in the evening. Too much 'man food'. Feel a bit icky so I am starting the day with a swim.

W dropped kids and I took them to school as per this morning. All good and kids happy. W seemed pretty normal. Kids will stop today so I will see them from late PM and will take them to school tomorrow. I then have them from Friday to Sunday night - hopefully Monday am so I can take them to school.

All going well re: detaching again. I feel very little emotionally for my W. I do love her and miss her company but no emotional rides. I am just going to treat her like I would a sister/neighbour today. Kind but no attachment.

I would appreciate any thoughts.

Surfer.