Life has changed, and I choose to grow from it.

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Quick journaling.

This past weekend d6 made some comments that I believe were slips as she is trying to process this sitch and it was uncomfortable and saddening.

When we were at movie night, d6 called her sister mom on a couple of occasions and then caught herself.
Saturday we were driving to breakfast and a good song was on that I started dancing to (as you do when in the car), and then d18 joined in. D6 said, you guys look like you are married...stop dancing.

Sunday before heading to church, d6 says, "Daddy, 'Suzy's' mommy is D'd and she stays at her daddies house sometimes like I do."

UGH!!! She is processing it as well as can be expected, but the confusion is slipping.
She struggles to describe the homes. She can't decide if they are mommies home and daddies home, or her hope or what....
Dang it...she will be al right. I will ensure that she feels loved and cared for.

D18 and I have really been trying to establish our, I don't know what you call it, but she is striking out on her own and feels pulled back by me and her mother.
I am trying to find a balance as she uses me as her sounding board and I try to just listen, and then she demands I speak up, and then I speak, and she gets frustrated at what I say...Oh goodness. She really needs a female role model and perspective right now if ever.
What do I do?

Well, I keep trying to learn how to best support her and provide what she needs. I learn from my mistakes, and then I try again.
And I love the heck out of both of them no matter what.

That is what I do.