Life has changed, and I choose to grow from it.

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roist
thank you for the thoughts.
The 2 weeks was at the advisement of my L. She wanted 6-8 weeks af vacation time as she is a school teacher, but I don't get that much vacation time from my job.
L advised it is best to make 2 weeks legal, and as we can learn to co parent we have the right and option to go above that. He advised because of the hostility and her efforts to take advantage of the vacation and holiday schedule, that fair was the best legal thing to agree to.
My L is very pro children and mature healthy co parenting. His focus is keeping that balanced without letting the parents make everything a fight.

So it makes sense and right now, she is pushing limits with a lot of it.
She is angry when I make arraignments on my days for care if I have work but if the arraignment is with her, she seems to find ways to tell me last minute that I need other arrangements. Feels kind of a game, but I am doing my best to pay it no mind and respond as needed to care for my D6.

So as much as I want the time with D6, I know how much she wants to visit her grandparents, and it can save me days off so that when I take vacation, I can spend it with her... and it does minimize the potential argument for the winter break.

My mind really wants a right or wrong answer here, and I know my challenge is that the mind is creating scenarios that she will dam me if I do and dam me if I don't...but that is simply in my mind...Do what is right for me...and d6. Right?

I just need to be decisive here.