Divorced and so grateful

[RosaLinda]

Job, the dream house is near Baltimore I think, Elkwood or Elkton or something like that. I hope you live no where near that!!

Thanks for your support, you guys. It's funny because very few of us have met in real life, but I love you all so much and feel so much more comfortable sharing all this crappy/funny/crazy/mind boggling stuff that happens with you. This is our safe place. I really don't share much with my "real life" friends - they just don't understand!

I'm concerned for my ex-MIL too, but she's a strong lady and hates RT. I may just put a bug in her ear Ellie as you suggest -- I think she'll protect herself and her assets. And yes, Bright, RT did actually tell me all that stuff. What she actually said was ask did I know ex-MIL lives on $70,000 a year interest from her investments, and then said she and ex would inherit a lot of money someday. But I forgot that inheritance is not a marital asset in NY! Hehehe, she'll have to stay married to him to reap any benefit from that!

I think she sees me as some kind of ally, which is sort of sick.

Hmmm Ginger, we have been talking about boundaries and consequences on some of the newcomer threads. I like what you said about letting reality bite them in the @ss! Karma bus!! Climb aboard!

[job]

I live about an hour from Baltimore and Elkton has small town charm, but very close to Baltimore. It will be interesting to see how they finance a home and keep up the mortgage payments. I think RT was just talking to see what your reaction would be. But, time will tell.

RT is definitely looking at your ex-MIL's income. How does she know so much about what the lady has and earns from her investments? To me, that's really none of her business, but her eyes are shining bright and her tongue is hanging out, just ready to bite into a chunk of that money. She probably has never made that kind of money in her life and this looks like a huge amount of money to her.

I think RT is telling you things to see what your reaction is and if you'll up and say something about all of this. I may be wrong, be in many ways, I think she likes to fish. Be careful of her!

[Maybell]

Hm, job, I'm an hour from Baltimore too...

RL, I can't believe you let them in your house. I haven't followed your thread really closely but I should check up on it. Mr. Fantastic's girlfriend isn't the home wrecker but I won't even look at her if I can avoid it, let alone let her anywhere near my home.

Maybe your MIL should offer to ferment the oatmeal for them....

[RosaLinda]

Hi Maybell! I don't blame you for not looking at your ex's girlfriend. Not one bit I don't think you or Job need to fear my ex and RT moving near you, I doubt they can afford it. Living in his mom's attic for free is much more affordable LOL.

So he dropped by again yesterday, and RT stayed in the car. He said that she refused to come in because I was angry with her. I told him that she was correct LOL

[job]

Your xh can't stay away from you or the house. You'd think he's want to go on w/his life and enjoy it w/RT. Poor baby, her feelings are hurt! Sniff! Sniff!

You are absolutely right, they are going to be the weeds in the attic until ex-MIL is unable to take care of herself and they put her in assisted living or she dies. RT isn't going to let her golden goose be out of her sight.

[RosaLinda]

Job you crack me up! Did you have a nice weekend?

I am really worried about my ex MIL though. I think maybe I better repeat RT's comments to my ex SIL, who are both rather fierce!

[job]

How's the vacation going? I'm sure you didn't spend much time at the beach w/the weather the way it was.

My weekend was great. Got a lot done, went to an Artfest and met up w/some old classmates for dinner. I've been enjoying the rain because we've not had a good rain since June.

I would definitely tell your ex-SIL about the comments. I don't trust RT one bit and your xh is just blinded enough by "love/oatmeal" that he would go along w/anything she said.

[RosaLinda]

I'm glad you had a nice weekend Job. Our vacation was really fun too, thanks. We did get to go to the ocean one day, and boy the undertow was so strong it was scary. Some of the roads were flooded from the storm surge, and it did rain quite a bit but just a couple of hours each day and night. I'm glad you're happy it rained LOL. The birthday boy getting so sick really put a pall over the last few days, but on the whole I think everyone had a really good time. You would have enjoyed it - lots of good food, a couple of museums, some wild ponies, the ocean, and good company!

Interestingly, while down there in the OBX, I got an email from my ex, with photos of a letter from the USCIS saying that they were denying his affidavit of support for RT, unless he could provide more documentation showing that his income is 3 times 125% of the poverty level, which comes out to a little over $60,000 per year. The man has not worked since 1994! The other option is for them to get a co-sponsor who makes enough money.

He asked if I would "take the case." I got a lot of good suggestions down there, and ended up telling him that his ex representing him and his green-card-seeking wife in their visa application would be a red flag that his marriage is fraudulent.

I did not repeat the snarkier funnier suggestions, but really really wanted to

[Maybell]

WOW. the mind boggles.

What if you had played dumb, gone through with it, and let them take the consequences? (Too much risk, I know, but fun to contemplate).

[RosaLinda]

hmmmm Maybell, it sort of IS time for them to have to take the consequences of their actions, right?