Well my handle should be sobersapiens. Just something I made up.. But sober is all that fit. 😊 I'm 45 W is 48 we have no kids. She has had social anxiety since I've known her. We met 12 years ago married 11 this December. Not sure how committed she could be with OM he lives 1100 miles away. She said in May she wants a divorce and hasn't filed anything. She has talked down to me in front of others in the past and my sister said a few years ago she seems unhappy with herself. I always talk her up and want her to do the best and be the best she can be. We have had our fights like everyone else. I work a lot as well. I'm really at a loss because I've never seen her act this way.