Trying to detach - part deux

[Cherry]

No offence over here at all! I admire you for finding the humour in the situation. Sometimes it feels to me that some behaviours are so strange, that if it wasn't real life and hurting us- it could actually be humorous!

What you're feeling is totally common. We've all been put through hell by the way they have treated us and acted, that I think at some point we all begin to question wether we could actually trust them not to do the same thing to us again. Whatever happens, we can't still look at them as naively and loving as we once did, at least this is how I feel. I don't feel as though I can look at my wh with that same "he will never hurt me, we will be together forever" look. Thing is, I fear that I will always have this viewpoint in any relationship going forward now. Wether I want to or not.

On the flipside, there are many people who say that r's can be stronger after great tests like this. And if it comes to it, yes work would need to be done- but it would be a joint effort. Stay strong mami!