Looks like the sitch is relitively new ... I am curious as to how you arrived that your H is MLC vs WAS as there are similarities in both especially how the LBS handles things ... but there are some key differences that would help us aide you in this journey no one asked for. Its not typical they want to work on the M but he may have done this just because he got caught in the A .... which I assume he is still in but still living at home>?
Just keep posting so you can get better advice..... as far as how to balance the light house/ standoffish arena ... Cadet helped you there alot of that information is in the Newcomers homework ... Sandis 37 comes to mind right off the bat.
