Trying to detach - part deux

[SH_]

SH, you probably guessed that I am quite a stubborn person

HAHA, now this made me laugh out loud....
The radar of the stubborn, easily spots our kindred spirits of stubborn!
But our friend cadet listed stubborn as one of his good traits in another post....
I concur...
Of course I concur except when it comes to kicking and screaming in front of the wrong people...You know like WAS/WW, a boss, a good friend...
You know...Great job not letting him see.

It is good to hear that the NC is helping...
I too struggled to believe it would in the beginning, but hindsight, I wish I would have pushed her out a bit faster to save A LOT of extra pain and fury...
But now I know for next time...err, well that makes no sense, cuz there ain't never gonna be a next time.

Anyway, I just had to share cuz you made me laugh.
Appreciate it today...I need some more giggles of late.

PS, also giggled at your description of your poor D....giggling like a father who gets how that happens.

[pinn]

Hi Coly,

My NC time period was actually a blessing in disguise as well, I am glad it happened (it lasted a few months). Nothing to think about during that time, I could focus on myself. You can do the same!

Keep on keeping on...

[ForGump]

Otherwise just STFU about loving his D. A Dad doesn't walk away.

That's what I'd say.

Coly--

Just to be clear, I'd say STFU to your WH, not to you.

I wasn't going to get into it in this forum, but my D13 is a step daughter. But I've been her Dad since age 3, and I never call her anything other than my daughter -- except if I'm filling out some legal paperwork.

So I have special sympathy for what's going on between your D15 and your WH.

All your difficulty letting go ... tells me that, like so many people here, you love deeply and you are a very loyal person.

Glad to hear you had a good day. One day at a time. I just try to survive one day at a time.

[Coly23]

Thanks All! Sorry I have been MIA again, I'm just struggling to get things down on here at the moment

Gump, I knew what you meant! I am sorry if I might have sounded a bit insensitive about my H not being my D's step Dad anymore. At least you didn't walk out on your SD so your relationship with her I know will be much stronger. She will have much more respect for you knowing you have stayed through this terrible time for her and your S.

Captain Coly's log 27th September 2016
Day 13 of no contact. The Alien still remains remains elusive on the distant planet of one bedroom. I am not sure what strange rituals occur on this planet as the Alien does not wish communicate even with Second Officer D. We aren't even getting any closer to understanding how this strange creature lives or thinks as I do not have the coordinates to plot a course to planet one bedroom in order to study it. All I know is that recent sightings show that the Alien looks somewhat larger than when it last ventured out of its habitat. Could it be mutating, but why?..... To be continued....

[maybs]

Captain Coly's log 27th September 2016
Day 13 of no contact. The Alien still remains remains elusive on the distant planet of one bedroom. I am not sure what strange rituals occur on this planet as the Alien does not wish communicate even with Second Officer D. We aren't even getting any closer to understanding how this strange creature lives or thinks as I do not have the coordinates to plot a course to planet one bedroom in order to study it. All I know is that recent sightings show that the Alien looks somewhat larger than when it last ventured out of its habitat. Could it be mutating, but why?..... To be continued....

I love you for this... I mean I know it's not funny at all to be in this situation but this for sure lightened my mood.

Could it be mutating... possibly, only time will tell. I've been asking myself this same question about my elusive Alien.

[Cherry]

Coly you made me laugh here too. I have a slight warped sense of humour and try to find the humour where I can, so it makes me happy to see you doing the same thing.

Hang in there lovely!

[hawker]

Thanks for the smile today Coly....hang in there girl!!!

[Coly23]

Thanks Ladies, I hope I didn't offend anyone. I just felt I needed to do something to lift my spirits a bit and hopefully for a few of you on here too. I had a real attack of the weepies today and needed to pull myself together so thought this might help.

At the moment he does seem like an Alien to me. I just don't know him anymore and the longer I am dark the further away from him I feel. I fear that if he ever did want to come back I might have a tougher decision to make than I first thought.... :0(

[Cherry]

No offence over here at all! I admire you for finding the humour in the situation. Sometimes it feels to me that some behaviours are so strange, that if it wasn't real life and hurting us- it could actually be humorous!

What you're feeling is totally common. We've all been put through hell by the way they have treated us and acted, that I think at some point we all begin to question wether we could actually trust them not to do the same thing to us again. Whatever happens, we can't still look at them as naively and loving as we once did, at least this is how I feel. I don't feel as though I can look at my wh with that same "he will never hurt me, we will be together forever" look. Thing is, I fear that I will always have this viewpoint in any relationship going forward now. Wether I want to or not.

On the flipside, there are many people who say that r's can be stronger after great tests like this. And if it comes to it, yes work would need to be done- but it would be a joint effort. Stay strong mami!

[ForGump]

LBS's lose weight so ... maybe WS's gain? I know I lost 10 lbs so that must've gone somewhere else in the universe.

Great log, Coly. Yes, WS's are unrecognizable....