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[Georgiabelle]

Ginger,

I've been away from the party but wanted to swing by and chime in (just ignore the dance music in the background). Can I contribute a joke? You can thank my 6 year old for this. What do you call a cow with no legs? GROUND BEEF!!!!!

Gosh, you have gotten some gold medal style advice. I'm sorry about the condo. I suppose the universe was saying "not yet" or perhaps not the right place. It sounds like things are a bit hectic and I know you are busy with your D. She sounds fun:) This is a joke, but I always tell my D she is the reason people have kids..and stop at 1. Humor is high in my house. I tell them it's the best survival tool in the box.

G, it sounds like you are a funny, smart hottie who happens to be a generous and devoted mother and friend. SCORE!!!! I think we would have fun together. I would quote people but I'm multitasking so I'll skip that. Some wonderful commenter (the name escapes me) mentioned that you think you "attract" a certain type of situation when in reality you "choose" to engage in that. I only point this out because a good friend of mine says the same things. She says "I only attract men who don't want to commit or who aren't overly interested in me." Hails to the no! And let's be logical, why would someone *really* want to be with someone who doesn't reciprocate your feelings? I always think that is an underlying tone of wondering why you aren't *good* enough for those folks. For some people that is like napalm and it ignites that "why doesn't he want me, etc" even if they are not actively pursuing. And hence, people convince themselves there must be something *wrong* with them if the people they *think* they want don't want them back.

I was with people for 19 years. I was always dating someone and honestly, I always picked pretty good people in relationships. I'm friendly with all of them. I think the dating landscape now is fraught with a bit of a churn due to online dating which of course translates into RL. Is that bad? Nope. Is what it is. All we can do is adjust and do the best we can to navigate.

I don't know how or when you will meet someone. I wish I did:) I know you are lonely and I totally get that. Completely normal. Lots of lonely people in the world who seem to have a difficult time connecting. I know people who have been single for years, so please don't think you are strange. Yes, you have many, many wonderful things in your life, however, doesn't mean you wouldn't like to share an ice cream cone with a fun, cool guy who likes your D. Being alone for almost 2 and half years was really liberating for me. And perhaps part of that is that I had become so immersed in keeping Mr. GB afloat, working, the kids, the house, etc, that I was exhausted. Now, I hope I am doing things different in my relationship with my new guy. Maybe, you still need to realize how valuable you are and that good relationships exist. And yes, you can have one too.

Oh, and wanting someone you are attracted to who is also gainfully employed, kind, funny and likes your D is not being picky. Saying I need to see 9 years of tax returns, be a minimum of 6 feet, no gray hair, has read "Eat, Pray, Love" and only watches Reese Witherspoon movies is being picky. We ALL have baggage. ALL of us. (I'm jumping up and down, waiving my arms in the air in my sweatpants with "I'm Behind The Dawgs" across the booty. No-I don't wear them in public.)

Hang in there. Keep going. Gosh, I was super wordy.