Taking the first step...

[Coly23]

* the majority of which he had known since he was young! Not 'white'!!

AndrewP, when I first came into the Newcomers board I read your sitch from the beginning as I was intrigued about all the mind reading you said you did!

I didn't actually get the ILYBNILWY speech, I just got I don't love you and don't think I ever have speech! H got annoyed a little while later when I reminded him of what he said and denied he ever said that he didn't ever love me!

Between Xmas, when he dropped the bomb, and May I tried really hard to turn things around but he just wasn't interested. In the end I said if you have to leave then you should and he did. I didn't think he would be gone this long. I thought he would take a couple of weeks for himself but once he was out he was on that train and he wasn't getting off.

A couple of months ago I did suggest we have family evening and then maybe start adding in an evening where me and him go out and that is when he said he didn't want any timelines. He told my D that he can leave the rental fiat at anytime but I don't know if that means he has the option of taking somewhere bigger if it comes up as he is in a one bedroom apartment. He still has a lot of clothes and stuff at the house but again it could be because he diesnt have any storage. I'm going to wait for him to ask me. He says he isn't ready to add on an evening for us.

when he first left he didn't see any of his friends for about two/three months not even his best friend. He hid away from everyone. He has told friends now that life is too short and that he would like to carve out a friendship with me! Whatever!

I'm just so confused by all of this!!!