SoEffingLost---Please help 2

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Also, detaching has nothing to do with her moving out. You can certainly remain attached even with her moved out. Detaching is about not letting her actions/words affect you emotionally. If a stranger that lives down the street has an affair, does that affect you emotionally? Of course not. That's where you need to get with your W. You do that by turning all of your focus inwards and put all your energy on you and your issues. You can't do anything about your W's issues. Those are for her to work out. Detaching is one of the most difficult things you will have to do but its imperative that you find a way to get there.