SoEffingLost---Please help 2

[LiM]

No, you have to go dark and work on you. I was also emotionally detached for a long time. It does seem counter intuitive but if you suddenly become emotionally available, it will be seen as too little, too late as long as she is still in an A. Nothing matters until she makes a decision to end the A. In the meantime, you must be working on YOU. If you truly work on making yourself a better person, she WILL see the difference the next time you have an encounter. Going dark doesn't mean that you will never see her or speak to her again. You certainly will and when you do see her again, she needs to be thinking "Who the hell is this guy?"