Well here's my situation.
In April wife went to help friends move out of state.
Came home said she needed space wasn't sure what she wanted.
A few weeks later in May I caught her on the phone at 5 in the morning with OM who lives up north.
Said she wasn't going to stop talking to him and after I called him and confronted the situation (he was sort of a friend of ours) she went underground using a text app.
I was unaware and thought they stopped communication.

At the beginning of this month she texted me she was going out of town for Labor Day weekend with some girls from her new job.
I became suspicious and found out that she had paid for a plane ticket and hotel room for them.

Confronted her again and we talked was shocked I found out and begged me not to come to the hotel room an hour away she still stayed the final night and came home on the 5th.
When she came home she said we were over and that she was filing for divorce.
It was a rough week and half with fighting and stuff. I have since backed way off because she has yet to file and says they haven't spoken in a couple of weeks.
Which of course is something I find hard to believe.
She says she will talk to me but hasn't as of yet and it's so hard not to confront her.
She has been living in spare bedroom since April.
Says GM and sometimes GN.
Says hi when we are in the same room.
Small talk from time to time.
I just don't know why she hasn't came to me to talk about things. I'm not mind reading but I feel she is mulling things over knowing how well she actually has it with me even though we need to work hard at getting our marriage back together.
Any advice will be welcomed.
I have been reading the boards for weeks now.
Thank you.

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