Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 5)

[JRuss]

PsySara -- thanks for the thoughts re validation. I get what you're saying, but, at times, I think the line between validating and not being a doormat is almost impossible to navigate. There are certain things -- like blaming and finding fault with someone who's suffering because they aren't acting like nothing's wrong at all times -- that shouldn't be validated. IMO. I could be wrong. I usually am.